Making new friends at this stage of life feels outrageous but it is not uncommon to find yourself having to do just that after the dissolution of your marriage. People feel they either need to take sides or pull away completely. So here you are, making new friends.
Truth? It is like trying to find a new boyfriend. You have to be open, honest about who you are and know that you're okay if the "match" doesn't work out. But it's also important that you be selective in who you bring into your life. There are toxic women just as there are toxic men and you don't need to poison your new life with either so, be careful. Listen to your intuition and know that as you grow, so will the quality of women that you attract into your life.
First, be your own best friend.
· Take care of yourself. i.e., proper sleep, nutrition, exercise. · Let go of the friends that don't support you. · Sign up for that yoga class you've wanted to take. · Surround yourself with what's beautiful to you. · Dare to do the unthinkable.
Second, make yourself available to others.
· Start up a conversation with other women in the grocery store. · Smile at strangers. · Start up a conversation with a woman that you admire but are intimidated by. · Invite your single neighbor over for dinner or a movie. · Tell that woman who you think is so beautiful, smart, etc, that you think she is beautiful, smart, etc.
Finally, be yourself.
· Share your story. ·
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Laugh at yourself.
· Share what you're passionate about.
Remember, it's your girlfriends that will tell you, "Hey! Stop being so hard on yourself!" "You're amazing!" "Yes you can!" and "Why not you?" They will be there for you when you need them the most just as you'll be there for them. And until then, it's time for you to tell yourself, "Hey! Stop being so hard on yourself! Yes you can, you're amazing! Why not you?"
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